Laurie MacNaughton © 2018
Charles, sweet-tempered and kindly, sat in my office fidgeting with a ballpoint pen.
“My mom has never really been herself since her fall, and I found out she was having money problems only after I came across a delinquency notice for her property taxes. By the time I opened her bills, she was late on everything – mortgage, taxes, utilities, you name it. I need to negotiate with creditors on her behalf but she never drew up a power of attorney, so now I’m not sure what my options are.”
In my role as a reverse mortgage lender I’ve met with hundreds of aging homeowners and their families. I’ve seen homeowners who have planed extensively for their retirement years, and I have seen homeowners who have done very little planning. I have seen couples who saved extensively, but because they have lived 25 years longer than anticipated, their savings are running out. And then there are the couples who did everything right, but because they were financially assisting a loved one, they depleted their savings much more quickly than they ever imagined. And that scenario can be a huge bummer.
Following are some basic preparations to make before a crisis arises.
The first step is to record administrative information on one master list. Include on this list:
- The name of your banks and other financial institutions;
- The name of your pension plan, life insurance plan, investment accounts, CDs, health savings accounts and the like, along with account numbers;
- All income sources, including Social Security, annuities, veteran’s benefits and the like;
- All financial obligations, including credit cards, mortgages, car payments, and utilities, along with the names of the utility providers;
- Usernames and passwords for your online accounts;
- Copies of driver’s licenses, social security cards, healthcare cards, birth certificates, divorce decrees, death certificates and the like;
- The names of primary care physicians over the past 10 years. Current physicians may well be different than the ones used in years past, and it can become important to have contact information for previous doctors.
The second step is to meet with an attorney regarding the following documents:
- Power of Attorney;
- Advance medical directive;
- HIPAA release.
If these documents already exist, make sure they’re up to date.
Once you have collected this information, put it in a safe and secure place – and let a responsible party know where the documents are. Preparation is only helpful when the right person knows how to find the information.
In a utopian world there would be no aging, sickness, disability, or financial hardship. But in this world that is our lot, a little planning can be the most loving gift you can give your heirs – not to mention the fact that planning ahead can save thousands of dollars in legal fees should adult children need to become a parent’s legal guardian.
If you would like to look into how an FHA-insured reverse mortgage might help with your family’s financial goals, give me a call. I always love hearing from you.
For a printable version of this checklist, click here: A little planning can be a big gift – checklist.